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camembertlylegal:

batmanisagatewaydrug:
idyll-ism:
sorryiwasasleepagain:
blkbruja:
y’all need therapy. not girlfriends
Or they need a girlfriend that doesn’t mind listening and trying to help them work through their shit and defeat their fucking demons without asking them to pour out their soul to a stranger who is only listening because it’s their job. That’s the kind of shit you do for the people you love.
your partner is not your therapist. listening to your partner is one thing, but it is not their responsibility to help you work through your shit. that is on you.
one more time.
your partner is not your therapist.
also if I may hop onto this, I REALLY hate when people try to spin “therapists only listen because it’s their job” as a BAD thing. can you imagine if we tried to apply that to literally any other profession?
“why take your phone into the store to get it fixed? they don’t care about you, they’re only doing their job.”
“I don’t want to order a pizza. they’re not making it for me out of the goodness of their hearts, they’re only doing it because it’s their job.”
“why didn’t you just have your girlfriend do that surgery instead of going to a stranger who only saved your life because it’s their job?”
it’s their job because they are better equipped to do it than the other people in your life. jesus christ.
My new therapist made a great point yesterday which was, “if your therapist is doing their job right, you won’t notice their feelings or judgment.” She said it in the context of dick therapists being dicks but it also applies to good ones?? Like the lack of Emotional response or whatever is part of their job. If you’re upset that your mental health professional isn’t behaving like your significant other, like…. that’s a problem to work through In therapy probably.